First Time Dad

The newlyweds who live next door are expecting their first child. And I notice the husband getting 'big' along with his wife, because he seems stressed about all that is involved in having children, especially a first child.

So I walked over and handed him my books about being a Father for the first time, and answered his questions about this topic. By the time I left you could see the peace on his face, that he is not the first guy to experience this event.

Ever notice how the first born gets 'detailed' because mom and dad are learning how to be parents for the child, and with each other, but the rest of the kids after that it seems more laid back a bit. Like the parents know what to expect the next times so they just move with it ... again.

I remember our first child - though I want to believe that I had it a bit easer because my wife and her mother were extremely sensitive and detailed about all the needs, and have been ever since - all of the unanswered questions, concerns and worries dissipate once you see that new person for the first time. There are no words or pictures to describe that feeling of positive overwhelment. God knows what He is doing!

Men do not usually talk about this stuff like women do. I do not recall my Dad or Father in-law telling me about what to expect, other than what a blessing children are and a gift from God. The greatest concern I had was to be a loving father. This is more important than being a great (financial) provider or anything else.

If every kid in America had a loving father in the home, we would have far, far fewer problems that we would have to deal with as a society. There are many societal problems to the growing lack of active fatherhood, calling on fathers to be “interested,” “present,” and “setting a good example” for their children. Our society down plays fatherhood, and the family structure of a man and woman with children as well.

The feelings and emotions of a new mother are extremely important, so too are the hurts of the new father. Many do not realize what a man goes through as result of a misscarrage. On the other hand, I recall this social media post not too long ago:

" My former girlfriend aborted my child. I learned about it through my attorney. I wept for months. "

We need to encourage as a society more children born into families, because it is what makes the world go around (as the saying goes). We need more pictures around depicting children and parents interacting, and the role of the loving father in the Childs life. And we need society to get out of the way of husbands and fathers so they can be encouraged to naturally lead and be the dad they all want to be, and that we really want them to be (men don't talk or cry about this stuff).

FATHERHOOD WALL ART - A beautiful collection of images inspired by father and child. Many Fathers, whether they know it or not, are at the center of their kids world. Depicting the loving bond between a father and child, or the things dad's love, these photographs are sure to captivate art lovers all over the world, and speak to the child in all of us and remind us of how it felt to spend time with the greatest man in our lives.

Remember, we have the Holy Family - Jesus, Mary, and Joseph - as a great example of what a family is and should be.




Image reference link: https://frankjcasella.pixels.com/featured/in-daddys-arms-frank-j-casella.html



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Frank J Casella, Art Photographer
Blogger on Fine Art America


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